CONTEST ENTRY – Sexual History: Numbers
Posted by joblack23 on 06/08/2010
I started dating this guy that I had a crush on for YEARS. I was mad for him before we even wen ton our first date, and that first date was incredible.Our second date, he starts asking me questions like “How many people have you slept with?” and i was taken aback. On a second date? have we reached that point yet? I really liked this guy, so i sat there and took a moment to process it. The i thought, hmm, better lie. B/c if he’s asking me, i have DEFINITELY slept with more poeple than him. But instead of lying well, I lie badly and say I don’t know, I’d have to count and luagh it off, hoping he’d let it go. Dates 3 and 4 went the same. We had a great time otherwise, but he would just not let this go. So i say what am i supposed to do, sit here and count? And he says “Yeah. Start counting”. So then I get angy. Who the eff is this guy and what exactly does he think of me that I need to start counting. That i need to share that personal info with him? We haven’t even dated a month. So, after copious amounts of drinking, i got angry and got into an argument with him and let him leave. Then called him and apologized and had him come back. Apparently, this bothered him for a week or two b/c one night I had a bit of an emotional set back and met a friend of mine for a drink. When I toldl him this, he assumed I was sleeping around and ended our dating.Now I ask you- other than possibly having a few too many, what exactly did i do wrong? B/c I didn’t want to share personal info so soon? B/c when he refused to let it go, I got upset? When I wanted a bit of space, he assumed I was sleeping around? Is that not a red flag for him being immature and insecure?!
Tara Landon said,
He shouldn’t have asked you on the second date or pestered you about it. Maybe to him it was the be all and end all of the relationship, but you wouldn’t want to be with a guy like that. Especially since you didn’t even care what his number was.
rustie71 said,
This is a big red flag for both him being insecure and immature…not only is it way to early for him to ask, but to be quite honest, none of his business really…there was life before him! And in the end, really, what difference would it have made if it was 5 or 25?? It’s your life, and if he isnt happy with the amount, no matter how high or low, he isn’t worth keeping around…my guess is if it is low, he won’t believe you, and if it’s high, he will assume that you sleep around, therefore constantly accuse you of it…as it sounds like he is already doing…RED FLAG for sure! good luck!
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