Posted by Tara Landon on 12/14/2009
You know what is a big time downer, when you are on a date and you have to make ALL the conversation. Sometimes when you are on a first date with someone who isn’t opening up try asking really generic questions so that you can send the conversation in a safe direction for him because you don’t want the whole date to be just you two starring awkwardly at each other for an hour and a half.
So you try “what’s your favorite movie?” and he’s like “Jaws III” and then… 
crickets. So then you ask “What is it that you like about Jaws III?” and then he says “I really like sharks.” and then … 
tumbleweeds.
Maybe at this point try to tell him a fact about you.
A special thanks goes out to Sparky Jae for submitting this post.
“How interesting, I also like sharks. When I was young I wanted to be a marine biologist and I would always visit the aquarium… *pause to allow room for him to jump in anytime about how much you have in common*…”
If nothing comes then you have found yourself “the mute” and unless your favorite thing in the world is to be in a conversation with yourself (and we all know there are some people that fall under that category) then this guy just ain’t gonna do it for you.
So when getting him to talk is like pulling teeth (and not those loose baby ones but those real strong-rooted wisdom buggers) that speaks loads about his ability to share in a relationship, so red flag it!
Posted by Cheryl Anne on
Honestly, if your friends don’t like the guy you are seeing then that means they are seeing something in him that you can’t. They don’t want you to get hurt so listen to them if they are very concerned about your date.
Sometimes we are blinded by love and we need an outsider’s perspective.
Posted by Cheryl Anne on
This guy I dated had had no idea how to do anything on his own. I guess he had always had help with this stuff before he moved out or something. He set up a chin up bar in his apartment but put the hooks in upside down so the first time he tried it he fell flat on his face.
Then he bought three fans for his apartment during a crazy summer heat wave. I came over and they were all sitting on the ground dissembled. I asked him why he hadn’t put them together and he said he didn’t know how. So I said let’s do it together. We started working on them and I had assembled two of them while he was still trying to figure out the first one. So I took the one he was working on and finished it correctly.
The very next time I came over we were supposed to watch a movie together. I had picked up the dvd and I asked where his player was. He pointed to a box on the ground. He said “do you think you can set this up for me? You are really good at this stuff.” 
Posted by Tara Landon on
UGH, ok so here is another celebrity infidelity that is smeared across the media. He seemed so wholesome, but clearly he had to have some flags before hand that could have been seen. What things do you ladies look out for when you suspect a guy is cheating? Let’s share so that we can avoid getting guys like Tiger Woods in our lives.
Posted by Tara Landon on
I think there is something to be said if you date a guy who is exactly the same as the last guy who clearly didn’t work out. It either means that you are not over that guy or your have a pattern of guy that you go for. Both of these are things to think about!
A special thanks goes out to Cam for submitting this post.
The Mute
